Hearts and Minds: Finding Our Truths Through Poetical Discourse
Poetically we talk about how we feel with our hearts and think with our minds, just like Van Morrison sings in his song I Forgot that Love Existed:
“If my heart could do my thinking and my head begin to feel, would I look upon the world anew and know what’s truly real?”
But the truth of the matter is that we do exactly what he sings about. We know in our hearts as a belief in ourselves and others, but our minds turn it into a feeling. It becomes a story of this or that.
We know that love occurs on many levels in our existence: parental love, familial love, friendship, courtship, etc., but in reality love is love, the relationship is the difference. If you remove sex from the equation, every relationship requires nurturing, self-respect, respect for the other person, and reciprocation. Even an infant, who requires more, reciprocates when you look into your child’s eyes and know unbounded love for them.
Our hearts sing when we are able to be ourselves in a family relationship. Many people don’t feel this way in their families as others put us down in our own behaviors, making us think we’re bad or not good enough. These feelings can come in the form of parental guardianship, sibling rivalry, and even friends as they take on the journey with us into the unknown behaviors of a life less ordinary. But wouldn’t it be nice if we just found each other and let each other be; lift each other up and find the love to be extraordinary in its ordinariness? Then we wouldn’t have to be one way or another, we could just be ourselves — truly ourselves.
The truly real comes from our heart centers generated as a thought that gets sent out to others and accepted from them through our integumentary system. It’s about feeling all attractive, all light, all love, and all the ways we feel connected to others and all the ways they feel connected to us. It’s a thinking-feeling statement, but it’s so much more than that. It’s a belief in a brighter future tomorrow, and again the next day, and again… and on and on into infinity and beyond. We don’t just belong to each other in love, we are love and in that love we belong on Earth at this moment right now. Life often doesn’t work out as we planned because we are always in the now. But the now extends into the future while following our bright lights through the path of unforgiveness.
We can let go of unmet needs and sometimes we’re guided by someone that helps us along the way. That person may be with you for just a little while or for a lifetime, it doesn’t matter because right now is where you met them and you can find that moment in love and guardianship. Feel protected in love in all the ways it shows up for you. If you don’t, consider why you feel that way and then let it go. Maybe that means letting go of the relationship which is hard because we’re told to stick it out. We mark our success in relationships through time, but maybe we need a perspective switch on this one.